※Original blog was written in Japanese. I translated into English with Google translate.
I have a criterion that I believe that I have a trusting relationship with this person, as the title says, "Can you discuss in a daytime set-up?"
I wonder if it is possible to discuss in a miscellaneous place without reading alcohol, without alcohol, and in a quiet place (not an office, classroom or cafe).
Whether this was a discussion at a set-up restaurant at lunch or not, whether it was a relationship that would allow us to share opinions anytime and anywhere when we actually brought something out. Refers to
By the way, I don't think that this criterion has much to do with "good friendship." For example, I have some good friends, but can you discuss at a lunch set-up even if you often go for a drink? Of course, some friends say that is not the case. The key here is not the ability of the person to argue, but simply that there is no debate relationship between "I and the person".
It's fun to talk with those people and talk about things they haven't heard about recently or common acquaintances, and it's not that the content of the conversation is not lacking. (In the first place, even a conversation with someone you don't get along with doesn't last long and you can't have fun.)
Now this criterion comes from some experience for me.
That was my experience as a college student and then working as an intern at a startup. When I was in college, I did long-term internships at several companies. Each was about six months.
Talk with the CEO of one of them, the startup.
The startup was small in number (about 5 people), and the office was small and physically close, so I was given direct guidance in various ways to study. I'll write these details someday.
(* By the way, after I graduated from the internship, the startup raised funds, relocated offices, increased employees, and became a very vibrant venture, so I was an intern at the scale at that time I feel that I was able to provide various guidance.)
Returning to the story, at the internship, it was customary for the CEO (or another executive when there was no CEO) to take me to lunch.
His career was that of a foreign investment banker → a major IT company → independence, rather than a startup-minded startup, he felt more like a professional with high integrity.
Of course, when I was a college student, I couldn't talk to him from the same point of view, but he always took me to lunch and said, "What are your goals in the future?" "," Is your idea of that goal right now (logical)? "
Perhaps he thinks that I was an intern and was trying to intervene in my growth, but on the other hand, I guess he sometimes liked that argument.
The lunch time was very informative to me, not only for my future career but recently I thought about such things, but I also talked about insights like that and sometimes I discussed from there .
She said, I didn't want to be content with my students, and it was not advisable to give a boring opinion, so I thought of my opinion as deep as possible before sharing my opinion. I was (Still, it was not a big opinion.)
At that time, when I was talking with friends of the same age, when I was talking about something like a debate, I often experienced that it wasn't so exciting and I moved on to the next topic. I thought it was something. (I didn't think my level was high, but I thought the axis of finding fun was probably different.)
So I was very surprised and personally surprised to meet him and have such a discussion, and to have it at a lunch set-up. It was not a negative meaning but an image that was close to refutation), but it was a very interesting time.
Since then, whether you can have a discussion at a set-up restaurant for lunch is one of the measures when considering a relationship of trust with people.
In addition, at the time, as a result of various discussions with him, I couldn't abandon the fact that I became more fond of such discussions and felt less comfortable with other conversations.
However, as I wrote at the beginning, we can build a trusting relationship without any discussion in the first place, and as mentioned earlier, some people do not discuss with "I", but discuss with other people There are many possibilities.
In any case, it's valuable to have someone who can give you an opinion that can improve your thinking anytime, anywhere.
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